“THE ILLOGICAL NATURE OF FRIENDSHIP” by John C. Maxwell in The Treasure of a Friend

Friendship is based on what it gives, not what it gets.  Friendship stays alive by serving the other, not seeking to be served.  Friendship is motivated by love, not debt.  Friendship is willing to sacrifice without seeing or expecting a return.  It doesn’t make sense, but the more it gives up, the stronger it gets.

When everything is said and done, I think we agree on what a friend is.  We were actually friends.  The foundation of our relationship was a great friendship.  But as life happened, I learned that at the end of the day, I didn’t want to be someone who couldn’t hold myself together on her own.  I’ve realized that I relied on you to hold me together.  At some point, I expected you to be everything I needed even if it was asking the impossible from you.  I did not see all this playing out the way it did.  It wasn’t in the plan, but it is what it is… I became selfish and resented you overtime for how complicated things got.

Others are supposed to complement your happiness, not be responsible for them right? Bottom line:  Don’t say we were never friends, because I beg to differ.  This may not make sense, but I still believe that we can actually still be friends.  I wish the best for you.  I am proud of you and I know good things are coming your way.  I’m learning to let go and I hope you are too.  I won’t forget the great person I had gotten a chance to know.  You’ve taught me many things and brought so much good in my life.